Published on mars 6th, 2016 | by Archer0
How to Tackle the Stress of Rejection
You don’t always get what you want in life even if it’s the one thing you aspire the most. It’s virtually impossible to please everyone when everybody’s got a type of their own. If you don’t fit the cut, then bye bye. Rejection doesn’t even have to be something huge. Simple let-downs such as your crush not replying to you or when you fail to impress that special someone takes a toll on your morale. Similarly, online dating revolves around this basic ecosystem of Hot and Not. First impressions may play a nice trump but as the old saying says, it won’t last. Truth be told, rejection is the opposite of being accepted but it’s not the end of the world. It just so happened that at one point, things weren’t just cut out for you.
But does that mean you will let rejection (or the fear of it) control your life? Honestly, rejection is inevitable. It’s part of life. The key to conquering it is by accepting it whole-heartedly. Most people avoid rejections by dismissing any chance of it. However, by doing so, it also guarantees a 100% failure from getting what they want. Isn’t that worse than rejection?
Why is it important to cope with rejection?
The more armed are we on dealing with it, the less it affects us at some point. Maybe at first, things would not go well but eventually, you have to face your fears.
How do we tackle this head-on?
> Acknowledge it.
Most people resort to denial. Saying “I shouldn’t be feeling this” is the number one symptom of rejection because it aggravates the feeling of negativity. Instead, we must take it constructively (as if rejection happens everyday – because it does).
> Assess how much it affects you
Don’t attempt to shrug off your emotion (it’s there for a reason). Do you want to cry? Please do. It’s actually the first step (and the most effective way of dealing with rejection – well at first). Releasing everything unloads the burden of rejection.
> Try to name how you’re feeling
When you’ve let out your grievances, try to put your emotions into words. Like, « I feel so down… I hate myself because I looked like a total fool in front of him or I feel out of place with my new group of friends”. Putting a label into your emotions would make it easier to resolve soon.
> Tell other people
It really helps to tell other people since it can be comforting to know that someone knows how you feel. In addition, telling others forces you to put your emotions into words.
> Don’t dwell upon rejection
After acknowledging it, do not dwell too much on that emotion. Once or twice is enough, thrice is an abuse. Continuously talking about it only exaggerates the magnitude of rejection since you’re bringing up negative thoughts.
> Lastly, avoid self-blaming
It’s okay to feel guilty for a while, but don’t let it eat away your potentials to try again.